Ok ok, we all get it. It was Valentine’s Day and you all spent it celebrating love and surprising your significant others with red roses and gifts. In another galaxy, some singletons spent their day sulking at people going all mushy over their partners while others celebrated freedom. There are so many celebrations associated with relationships these day, from popping the question in engagement bashes to the extravagant month long wedding packages. In all this glorification of love, being single can seem like a sad status.
But as times change, we have started realizing not everyone who is single is lonely or miserable or not everyone in a relationship is happy and fulfilled. Many people fall into the trap of listening to what society or others think is best for them rather than listening to themselves when it comes to making this choice. If you’re happy being single, don’t let society or social media pressure tell you otherwise. If you’re not happy in a relationship, walk out, don’t stay, don’t feed it your emotional energy just because you feel you have to be in a relationship for the society to see. And if you love the idea of being in a committed partnership, by all means, find your person.
But is being single better than being miserable in love? While many may start weighing over this trick question, it is important to say that there are advantages and drawbacks with either choice. Why? It all depends on your priorities that you currently have in life. Here’s why sometimes it’s better to be single rather than being miserable in love.
There’s no pleasing your partner
Did you ever find yourself over compensating in a relationship? Did your mind ever convince you that the pain and problems in the relationship were perhaps because of something you were not doing well enough for your partner. Having to constantly please someone else’s needs can be absolutely exhausting, especially if this someone is the wrong one.
Being single allows you to live life the way you want to with you taking charge of what is best for you without any sand there are no “what if” or “what went wrong” thoughts in your mind. You know best what is good for you and when you are single, you are the only person you need to please.
You have your freedom at your disposal
Be it your personal or professional life, nothing works unless you set boundaries for yourself. All failed relationships hurt, badly. You go in hindsight and realize how things could have been different. But what if we tell you that letting go of a toxic relationship should be celebrated for you did not lose, you won your freedom back.
You reconnect with yourself
When you walk out of a stressful relationship, you suddenly realize how much you’ve missed on. Remember all those times you had to give up things you loved doing the most just because you were not in your mental space. When you’re single, you have enough time to reevaluate your priorities and figure out what brings you happiness.
Fixing your self-esteem
Relationships can be physically and emotionally taxing. Even the strongest of us lose confidence and damage their self esteem if not treated the right way. If you’ve been in an unhealthy relationship and have been gas lit your way through it, you would know how being treated wrong made you feel worthless and insignificant.
You open yourself to fresh starts
See, love shouldn’t be hard. Of all the mediocrity in our mundane lives, love shouldn’t be it. It is meant to be enjoyed, love should be reciprocated. Once you detach yourself from a miserable relationship, being single offers you a fresh perspective to life and love. You carve your way in a new relationship by keeping an eye on the DOs and DONTs.